Matters of The Heart: Love

WARNING: This is a highly sensitive article. If you are allergic to issues that would pinch your heart painfully, please kindly stay away. Thank you.

What is love? Is love really blind? Today, I can confidently stand before you and say that 95% of Singapore’s population has no idea what love is all about. There are those who are born with the ability to love and there is the majority who need to learn what love is. Saying that love is a passionate feeling towards someone or something is a common and dangerous major misconception because we are humans and it is natural for us to get tired of things.

For example, you have a sudden crush towards this beautiful pink limited edition LV long wallet, you work really hard and manage to get the money to purchase your pink fancy. For the first few months you would feel like as if your wallet is glowing brightly with pride, every time you wish to buy a can of green tea from the coffee shop you would gracefully take out that precious wallet and silently shouting to the world saying “Hey! Look at my leeeemeeeted ediiiiition wallet!” You would also handle that non-living thing like a new born hamster protecting it from any form of pressure to prevent injuries. You tell yourself once in awhile “Oh I love my limited edition pink LV long wallet so much, I just love it”. In another 12 months you will definitely handle that wallet differently compared to the time when you first bought it. So have you greatly sinned for losing the love for that expensive wallet?

How about couples that would crazily gaze at one another over the dinner table till their food turns cold during their honeymoon period? Do you think this would continue at the later part of the relationship? I mean, frankly speaking, you really think this gazing effect would last?

I am here to present a revelation to you, love is not a feeling, love is a decision. If love is a feeling you will soon lose it and your marriage will be destroyed. If you sit in a cinema today with your spouse and on your left is sweet married couple and on your right is also a sweet married couple, you are in danger of becoming a statistic because 1 out of 3 married Singaporean couple ends up in a divorce.

Therefore, love is making a decision to be patient, kind, humble, courteous, unselfish, angelic and truthful with your life partner or family members. So don’t just live by your feelings, don’t let your emotions be the master over you. Make the decision to love.

You can be a professional lover.